Dear Blondie: I been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now.. And i know you can't change a man. See the thing is i dont wanna change him i love him for him. But its like he'll ask me so how was ur day? And if it was a shitty day he wont even care he shows no Emotions all he says to me is "Ohh Well What Can You Do"?.. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT? u think i wanna hear that? Dont fucking ask me how my day was if you dont care i dont know and its like can i be someone for the rest of my life that dont have no emotions?

Blondie's Response: You hit the nail on the head when you said "I know you can't change a man"..and that is a fact.  Basically the lack of emotion your partner is showing.is due to the fact that he is self absorbed and probably couldn't care less about how your day went..he is just trying to ask you what you want to hear..

 

Dear Blondie: Hiya Blondie! the thing is i am 15 and my b/f is 23 and we have been together for about 6 months and just all of a sudden my mom said that she thinks i should break up with him cause she thinks that i should see what else is out there and make sure that he is the one that i want to spend the rest of my life with. it's not that she dont like David or any thing.I really love him and he loves me. he is always sending me things and i cant go any where with him without him getting me any thing and i only see him every 2 weeks cause i live in Mississippi and he lives in Louisiana,but any way do you think that i should take my moms advise and take a break and see whatelse is out there or stay with the man i love deeply and truly?

Blondie's Response: Uh, he should be arrested. You are ripe for the picking..as soon as you ripen..My bet is you will be put back in the bunch

 

Dear Blondie: Hello blondie how you doin ? hope good i have a question for u n please help me out  i have this arabic guy i am gettin to know he is nice n everything but he doesn't called me like he used to he tells me he loves me n he wants a serious relationship we have gone out only on one date but he works a lot he is a very buzy man my mother says to try to talk to him n tell him how i feel that he doesnt have no time for me i send him  text messages he doesnt respond he lives in ct i am in nj does the distance matters much or no i really like him oh and one thing is he used to be best friend with my ex bf but i don't know if my date wants to try n play me i don;t  know Jake i need your help please help me out he told me he has been heert broken by three girls n i been played by three guys i even tryed to kill myself when i found out my first bf was cheating on me with his ex gf n for no reason he did it i am a virgin but i feel i am unlucky in love is it true ....

Blondie's Response: Stop being so dramatic and relax and let things flow.

 

Dear Blondie: hey blondi i am 13 years old and i have a crush on a 32 year old and i have likedm him for 2 years he is 18 years older than me but i really care about him and i was just wonderingif u think that i should just forget about him and move on or jusy keep likeing him and when i get 18 then i should tell him well gotta go bye

Blondie's Response: You are insane stop trying to ruin this guys life.

 

Dear Blondie:  Hi blondie, me and my girlfriend have been togeather for 5 months and things are
really chenging, i think she might be cheating on me but i dont want to say anything to her about it because i dont want her to think i am accusing her of anything, she tells me she loves me but sometimes she dosnt act like it, and here lately we have been fighting alot, please help me, what should i do? i really want things to work out for us.

Blondie's Response: Stop being a lil bitch and show her you are the man of the relationship.

 

Dear Blondie:  Hi Blondie. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years. and we had a very good sex life until lately now she is saying i make her feel like she has to have sex with me. she says i cant hold her or kiss her without wanting sex but the truth is she turns me on everytime we are close do you have any answers for this problem please help i miss holding her.

Blondie's Response: Jerk off before you hold her.

 

Dear Blondie:  Hey, I have been with my girlfriend now for about six months and I thought it wa going great.....Until about half a month and a half ago that is. The thing is, is that her parents just broke up for good. In a situation like this, I would have thought that she would like to talk to me more, right? Well to my dismay we have become very distant. I even wrote her this prolonged letter asking why she wasn't talking to me, and gave her the problems I had so that either we could just talk it over or she could write back. I waited 2 weeks an nothing came. Even with snail mail that's wicked long. I know she got my letter as well because I dropped it off at her house. I have no idea what is going on. It now just seems that she doesn't even want to be around me. I really love her, but I have no idea how to save our relationship.

Blondie's Response: It takes two, if she doesn't want to talk to you then I don't think there is much you can do, try talking to her a few more times if you want.

 

Dear Blondie:  Okay so i had been dating this guy Kurt for like 4 months. And i believeD was
starting to fall in love with him....Until i went to FLORIDA for a week. And he started acting all weird when i had gotten back. He hinted that i may have cheated on him while i was there....AND I DIDNT! i COULD have! But i didnt! So I SAID whatever! His friends had invited me to go on this roadtrip AND i went with his friends with out him and i felt guilty about doin what i did. SO then about 3 days later i had told him about the roadtrip and who i was with.i WAs so scared about what his reaction would be. B/c every1 had said that if their girlfriend did that they would be pissed! WELL He exploded on me " Im your
BOYFRIEND, NOT YOUR BOSS!" and he LAUGHED at me.... What a weirdo? LOL! Then the
next day HE DUMPED ME! He never said why... But im thinking it was b/c of the roadtrip thing? Like he totally played it off by laughing....What do you think?

Blondie's Response: I guess you pissed him off, how do I know?

 

Dear Blondie:  I need your advice my mother wants me to get with this guy that she knows he is married and has 1 little gurl he is about 38 yrs old and i am 17 i don't like him i just don't i don't know what to do he calls me every single day but i just can't handle that kind of guy soo I need advice should i send him to hell or do what ??? blondie help me please

Blondie's Response: Why are you even asking? you already said you do not want to be with him, so there is your answer.

 

Dear Blondie:  My girlfriend saids she want me to stop calling so much so she can get time to miss me and be more attracted to me. why do you think she is doing this

Blondie's Response: Perhaps you are annoying the shit out of her? maybe she wants to see if she really likes you or not?

 

Dear Blondie:  Im Still In Love With My Ex Who Now Has A Girl We Were Togeather For A Couple Of
Long Months When We Were Togeather We Never Had Sex But Now We Have Sex And Its Been Over A Year Since We Were With One Another Now All My Feelings Are Back But Worser Then Ever Only Now He Has A Girl Which Of I Think 8 Moths And I Think She Is Pregnant And Maybe So Am I I Feel Like My Heart Is In My Stomach And It Realy Hurts Im About To Go Crazy How Do I Get Him Back Or How Do I Forget Him For Good I Always End Up Comparing Every Dude To Him Please Help Me I Feel Lost And Cant Find My Way Back

Blondie's Response: I think you are saying you are doing some other girls boyfriend? Find your own boyfriend, unless you enjoy being the other woman.

 

Dear Blondie:  I love my girlfriend there is no doubt in that but I can never seem to get together with her because of her over protective parents. what should I do?

Blondie's Response: Sounds like she is 14 and not allowed out, therefore wait til she gets older.

 

Dear Blondie:  I need help my bf and me been together for 3 yrs and am not sure if he is gay couse everytime I see him he had a big bite on his lip and he didn't wanted even to touch me or kiss me he always used to fight n argue with me but now he is single n just bein with his hommies....

Blondie's Response: Uh ok.

 

Dear Blondie:  My husband use to go on line and chat with other girls about sex one even e-mailed him with her address and hours that her boyfriend wasn't home he claims nothing happen I think he's full of shit what do u think!

Blondie's Response: I think he is full of shit too if that makes you happy.

 

Dear Blondie:  I have a boyfriend right and there is another guy who loves me to death and wants to have sex with me. but i dont know if i should have sex with him. help me!

Blondie's Response:  If you have to ask my permission then you shouldn't.

 

Dear Blondie:  ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN DATEING FOR 2 MOUNCE. HE ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT SEX AND IM GETTING SO FED UP! IM ALWAYS TELLING HIM IM NTO READY BUT HE JUST COMES UP WITH MORE TALK ABOUT SEX. SO LATLEY IVE BEEN THINKING SHOULD I JUST HAVE SEX WITH HIM TO PLEASE HIM? IM SOO CONFUSED, WHAT DO I DO?

Blondie's Response:  Well, first off this is the first time I have ever seen the word "months" spelt "MOUNCE" Secondly, if you don't want to have sex with him then don't have sex with him, it is real simple, besides I am sure you have plenty more years ahead of you to be a whore.

 

Dear Blondie:  I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a month. everything is great except for the fact he wants to take things so fast. and im not ready for that. I tried explaining to him im not ready. and he does liscen. what do I do? 

Blondie's Response:  Break up with him til he understands your point.

 

Dear Blondie:  Im 23. My ex-girlfriend dumped me 3 years ago. I moved on and am currently with a girl now for 2 years, but i constantly think about my ex every so often <fantasize as well>. I was deeply in love with my ex, but the problem is I cannot open up to my current gf. She has never done anything wrong to me, but i just cant open up and I feel as if I cannot open up to any girl other than my ex. Should I stick around with my current gf even though im not "in love" ?. Should I call my ex just to see whats up, or would it make it worse in case I get rejected? Im a successful smart and not bad looking guy at all, I guess Im not my ex's cup of tea. Why do I feel like shes 100% my type and absolutely no other girl is ?

Blondie's Response:  Well if you do not like your girlfriend you should break up with her.  Also, I guess you should find out what the story is with your ex and reexamine why and how she became your ex.

 

Dear Blondie:  Me and my husband got a divorce yesterday, weve been married for 6 months, I still know he cares for me and he still loves me, he is in the army, I just want to know, if you think we will ever get back together.

Blondie's Response:  This is not the psychic friends network.

 

Dear Blondie:  dear blondie me and my lady been together for three months and that is long for me well my lady made a call to me and my ex girl friend pick up my cell and my lady got mad but my ex lady is my sister's friend and she comes over alot i dont mess with her or nothing no more but my lady is getting mad because i didnt call her at all i want to but i been busy with basket ball and the gym because i work out most of the times and i didnt have much time to call her so i been leaveing my cell over my sister's house and my ex lady been picking it up and my sister dont like my lady so shes says dumb shit to my lady and i tell her not to but she dont listen i dont take my cell with me because when i play ball ill brake it or when im at the gym and my lady dont understand that i love her but i need to do what i need to do and i use to be a player but i got with her and changed just for her but still shes gets mad at me for not a good reason so what should i do? 

Blondie's Response:  Stop leaving your cell phone at other peoples houses.

 

Dear Blondie:  I am 19 and Rob is 22 we were going out for about 7 months and then things got weird. THE 8TH MONTH This strange girl kept calling me and telling me she is with my man.And when Id question rob about it he said "No i could never do that to you" so I did some investigating (CUZ Im not stupid:0]and I called back that girl who strangely kept calling me.She told me that her and rob have been together,(fucking) for 3 months. So of course he eventually got CAUGHT!AND HE confessed but he was crying! I waz completely heart broken that i had no appetite for like a week.. and i would just cry.b/c we were so close he is like my best friend! So i got even with him and decided he hurt me i hurt him back. I ended up having a one night stand just to get pleasure out of watchin him HURT just the way I did. AFTER i had the one night stand i confessed to him and he waz upset. So why do i feel so horrible when i wanted to get even.Needless to say we are still really good friends. WE always bring up his "SERENA" chic that he cheated on me with. And he brings up my one night stand WE argue about it. "If you really loved me you wouldnt of gotten back at me" ROB says. BUT HE STARTED IT i just finished it. He does not show his feelings he hides them. The thing is im in love with him but he is still upset by what i did by being vindictive. I dont kno what i could do to get threw to him? The mans brain is so hard to contemplate

Blondie's Response:  Maybe you feel horrible for no reason, don't be a sucker, let him deal with it, the big fucking baby.

 

Dear Blondie:  Me and my girlfriend are both 18, and I really love her. Recently we got in a really bad fight, and I got so mad I grabbed a hornets nest from an old tree and threw it in her car. I feel bad, and told her I'm sorry but now she won't take me back because she got stung and it was my fault. I got stung more than she did carrying the hive, so its not like I didn't get hurt too. I just wasn't thinking. What should I do?

Blondie's Response:  Reduce pain and swelling with ice. Try to avoid putting ice directly on skin, because it can cause a flesh burn. Instead, use an ice pack or wrap a washcloth around the ice. Remove it after 10 to 15 minutes and dry the site thoroughly.  Use a topical antihistamine, such as diphenhydramine hydrochloride, available in cream, stick or gel. Opt for a topical anesthetic for pain not relieved by antihistamine. Consider topical lidocaine or benzocaine.  Apply a topical hydrocortisone cream to reduce allergic reaction around site. Take an oral analgesic, like ibuprofen, for general pain that may result from venom circulating throughout your bloodstream. Consider applying moist baking soda or mud to the sting site. Although there is no scientific evidence that these remedies work, some people find that they provide relief.

 

Dear Blondie:  Me and my g/f have been together for over a year now and she is acting a little impatient with me and she has been talking to her best friend alot lately and it happens to be her ex b/f, what do you suggest i do to i dunno spice up our relationship a bit. ya know make us, us again. also i am on her ass consantly about it and i always want to touch or kiss her titties is there something wrong with that?

Blondie's Response:  I am feeling a little impatient with you myself after reading a 4 line long sentence.

 

Dear Blondie:  There is this girl that has been after me for 3 years and I wouldn't even give her the time of day and for the past 2 1/2 years she has said she loves me. We are together now, but when we first met she was a virgin and in the 3 years that she tried to get with me she had sex countless times. Does that mean that she lied and she didn't really love me when she said she did? I really love her. We plan on getting married but this is really bothering me so I am asking you.

Blondie's Response:  Maybe if you weren't dicking around during those 3 years, she would have been with you, instead of having sex countless times with other people while you were being too cool for her?  I don't even see where there is any lying going on?

 

Dear Blondie:  I met this guy 2 months ago..and he has a gf of 4 years...I fell for him and he left his girl. I didn't know what was gonna happen between us....and I guess I really fell for him...now he has to go back for court reasons....and he want's me to wait for him...what do i do...it's so much more confusing then i can explan

Blondie's Response:  This does not make any sense to me.  He broke up with his girlfriend for you, but then the court said he has to go back with his ex?!?!?but he wants you to wait for him?!

 

Dear Blondie:  my boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriend online he doesnt know i know but when i ask him if he does he swears up and down he dont lol..she married do u think he is messing with her sexual or just friens help...

Blondie's Response:  This site an advice site for entertainment purposes not a psychic hotline, I don't know what he is doing.

 

Dear Blondie:  Hey i have a question. Me and my boyfriend went out for 8 months, then we decided to break up. We broke up for 4 days. During them four days, he got really drunk and fucked a qirl. Then after the four days were up we started going back out. Now it has been 1 and 1/2 month since we have been going back out. He got a phone call the other day saying that the girl was pregnant. Now here is my question What should i do? should i continue to date him? or not? my thing is if he fucked her once how do i know he is not going to do it again. And i dont want to get hurt. So please blondie help me and give me some advice of what i should do...

Blondie's Response:  Dump the asshole, you are right, if he did it once he can just easily do it again.

 

Dear Blondie:  How u doing? Well blondie a have some girl problems... Here it goes, i have my wifey and she's great but 1 day my friends and i when clubbing and i met this hot chick, to get to the point the girl and i when to a hotel and had sex, i was drunk to my ass and this girl gets pregnant and she calls me and tells me this, it gets better this bitch doesnt want a abortion and i dont know how to break the news to my girl!!! I dont wanna leave her and i dont think is fair to her bcuz shes good to me. What should i do?

Blondie's Response: Tell her you wimp.

 

Dear Blondie:  When me and my boyfriend broke up about 3 months ago (we were together for 2 years) we didn't talk for about a month but for the past 2 months we've have. When we hang out it's like we're still together. He still kisses and hugs me and says I love you, and when we've talked about getting back together and he always say "I need time to think". What is his deal? Does he still want together or what??

Blondie's Response: Let me consult my crystal ball, ::::::::::::::::::he just wants to bang:::::::::::::::::::but seriously, no one knows what he is thinking but him, so ask him.

 

Dear Blondie:  I need help. I'm very confused tonight my boyfriend of 1 year and 6months told me he was tired of spending time with me and that I was boring and he wanted time to his self. Do you think this is the point where were breaking up or do you really think he wanted time to his self for a little while or what. I NEED HELP PLEASE!

Blondie's Response: Sounds like he is not happy with your relationship.  At least he is being truthful which shows that he is at least telling you what the problems are so you can attempt to solve them together.

 

Dear Blondie:  Well blondie...me and my xgf broke up about 3 yrs ago..we were off and on for about 3 yrs too. Anyway, i ran into her @ the store and we exchanged nunbers. I always told myself if i got a second chance with her id be a better man to her then i was b4. Shes a great girl. We hang out every now and then and kiss a little bit and tease each other. My problem is now i think shes kinda hooked on me again andi look @ her...and im not attracted to her like i was yrs ago. I dont just wanna use her for sex...i can get any hoe regular hoe for that. How do i decide if i want her or not? i dont wann hurt her again.

Blondie's Response: You answered your own question, you said you aren't attracted to her anymore. There is your answer!

 

Dear Blondie:  hi.. im in love with 1 of my bestfriend.. she is also my BEST friends girlfriend.. i dont no what to do.. and i am also going out with some1 that i also really love.. i am REALLY confused but i think i want to be with my best friend .. only thing is i dont think she likes me i dont no what to do .. maybe you can help?

Blondie's Response: PICK SOMEONE!

 

Dear Blondie:  I've been dating a particular girl for a little over 3 years. It's been 7 months since our breakup. I still think about her all the time. Our breakup wasn't pretty, and I don't know why I miss her. Is this normal?  

Blondie's Response: Yes, it is quite normal to still have feelings and miss your love, especially if she was your very 1st love. Maybe you should send her a gift with a card in it asking from the bottom of your broken heart to forgive you, that you would really like it if you both could start over and lastly, if she would be willing to be with you again because those feelings won't go away if you can't get over her and it's been 7 long months. Don't just state your feelings in the letter, actually tell her that you love her and that you can't explain why because if you go explaining why you adore her, your love will appear to be conditional (i.e.: love her for her nice ass; D.S.L.'s; tits; etc) and she may hate you even more than ever. 
 

Dear Blondie:  dear blondie, i need you help, my ex girlfriend that i was with for a year just broke up with her boyfriend to be with me, and i want to be with her cause she makes me happy, but i could lose alot of friends if i take her back, i really lover her but i love my friends also, they are like my family, i really dont know what to do about this, please help me, what do you think i shoul do? 

Blondie's Response: First of all, I find it completely perplexing/disturbing that you are stressing over such a trivial subject matter. What on Bird's green earth would your friends have ANYTHING to do with you wanting to get with your love. If you really have a problem trying to decide on either your love or your friends, then you deserve a really big "erff" on that. 'Nough said.
 

Dear Blondie:  i went out wit my girlfriend for a year and i really love her but one day she just told me it wasn't workin and told me it was over for no reason. i ask her y and she just saids that she doesn't feel the same no more...after a week that she broke up wit me she started to talk to another guy. i have told her how much i love her and miss her. how can i get her back

Blondie's Response: The fact that she got with another guy within only a week of breaking it off from you just goes to show she only saw you as a temp boyfriend. I suggest you forget about her. Besides, there's plenty of fish in the sea. A lot more pretty ones at that. Just remember not to get too attached to the next victim unless you are absolutely positive that she feels the same way about you. And the only way to do that is to see how she acts around you after you ask her how she truly feels about you AND what type of relationship she is seeking with you (i.e.: temp, long-term, perm, just-for-sex, etc). 
 

Dear Blondie:  Hello, I have a question I am 20 years old and I am currently dating my boyfriend which is 26 years old.. We have been together for 4 months. Everything has been great! His Parents love me, me and his Sister get along and go out sometimes together. Honestly he Is the only boyfriend I have fallin In love with. He is my first true love. Me and him are deeply both In love..But my question now Is...For the past month things have been acting weird. We have been fighting over the stupidest little things that you can Imagine. And I personally dont like It because every time we fight I end up crying and I really dont appreciate a guy making me cry Its just not right. But my boyfriend knows that I love him with all my heart and I will kill and do anything for him. But its just sometimes we fight and I dont like it. Like this past weekend we went on vacation to NEW YORK and during our whole vacation It has been constantly fighting and arguing over stupid shyt. But let me get to the point here...It is not always my fault when we fight and argue his sister and mother even tell me he has a short fuse. So you know I try to not blow him up. But when he does I dont know what to do I just react and argue with him back. But then again this part I dont understand, After when we get back home or whatever he will see me laying down on his bed or something and he will cuddle with me and kiss me like as if nothing happend. Please help me blondie I am really In love with this guy I dont want to loose him. When I end up crying he calls me a baby and makes fun of me. I'll admit I do cry alot because I am very sensitive since 

Blondie's Response: If you truly are as deeply in love as you claim to be and he's got the short fuse, then maybe you should go to some relationship counseling because he doesn't seem to be such a great guy if he's constantly making you cry. Not only does he make you cry profusely, but actually goes and takes that a step further and actually MAKES FUN of your crying, KNOWING your a sensitive person. That right there just goes to show he's not nearly as sensitive as you are yourself. Forget the fact that he goes to lay down beside you and cuddle you, because even though he's temporarily showing affection at certain times, according to you, it's usually RIGHT AFTER a fight (you said it yourself). I mean, come on, think about it. That is NOT healthy in a relationship. And his short fuse problem is HIS problem, NOT YOURS. So, I feel you should suggest to him that he go see an anger management counselor, in addition to the relationship counseling I was talking about earlier. And after you two go to the relationship counseling and he is done with his anger management sessions, if things still persist (even if things may cool down for a little while after all counseling efforts have been taken care of, but things go back to normal and the fighting restarts again), then maybe the best thing for you to do is leave him.
 

Dear Blondie:  well hello were do i begin, well it all started in my 6th grade year and that someone's 8th grade well i mate this guy when i was in the 6th grade and what could i say it was like love at first site, ever since then i have been madly in love with this someone, but the funny thing is my parents say we grew up together but i just dont remember him i am 17teen now and still have a great crush on him and care for him so much well this is my promble on new years 2003 me and him hooked up so of course i thought something about it and thought finally his coming around and wants to be with me... i was so wrong... The bottom line is evertime he sees me we end up hooking up in total i think we hooked up like 30 times ...loll well i dont no what to do cuz he tells my cousin and my bestfriend that he think IM so pretty ... but what is so wrong with me that we just dont started talking and messing ..or even going out and the thing that pisses me off the most is that he hook ups up with me and then like 2 weeks pass and he doesn't call or imme nothing...The other day my cousin and my bestfriend and him came over so we could hang out cuz my cousin and my bestfriend go out well they bought him along we just watched a movie in my basement and the whole time he was begin up my ass i was trying to not think he was there cuz i really want to get over him you dont understand everyone tells me and him that we should be together .. listen to this i went out with my cousin and her friend tell me how 2 mins in to meeting her friend she comes out with u no who you make a cu i need to stop this heart from breaking in to 2 more then it is already!

Blondie's Response: Wow, alright, I can barely understand what you were saying through all the gibberish you typed, but I will try to somehow respond to this garble you sent me as best as possible. It appears you still have this crush on him since you were about 11 years old and now you are 17 and still not over him. You claim he likes you, seeing that he told your friend that he thinks your pretty. So, why not just cut straight to the chase and just ADMIT to yourself first, AND THEN to him your feelings so this madness can end. Because the only way to move on from "infatuation" is to just be honest with yourself and the one that's on the receiving end of your madness. Be real with yourself and how you truly feel about him, whether you just love the way he looks & his personality or if you just truly feel that "special connection" with him. Once you've pinpointed exactly what it is and WHY you feel that way about him, LET HIM KNOW your conclusion to your feelings for him, and see what he says. Then whatever happens after that all depends on his reaction/response to it, and the actions that you & him take collectively that follow. Next time, and this goes for ANYONE ELSE who wants help from me: PLEASE get SPELL AND GRAMMAR check already done PRIOR to submitting. And don't forget to actually put periods in place of commas or "...'s" because that is annoying. Thank you.
 

Dear Blondie:  me and my boyfriend "acquaintances" before we ever went out. we would have small-talk and it would sometimes be focused on his ex girlfriend. they went out for two years and kept fucking for about 8 months afterwards. he was still crazy about her for like 6 months after they broke up. its been about a year since they like completely stopped doing anything, and now he's with me. we get along so perfectly and he makes me feel like a fucking queen. we have our fights sometimes, but who doesn't. he tells me that with me he's learned a lot about himself and that he's never felt this way before. the problem is that the things he told me about his ex before (way before we even thought about being together) still haunt me. it drives me crazy that he loved her so much, especially since he is my 1st serious boyfriend. the sex with us is great and we try all these things and were really comfortable with each other. from what I've heard about his ex they were young and didn't really try much, they just fucked in that non emotional way. it really kills me though, and when were having sex lately all I can think about is whether he's thinking of me or her, and then I'm not in the mood and it ruins things for both of us. even my girlfriends, which usually bash my guys, are on his side on this one. how do I stop being jealous of his ex, its really screwing things up.

Blondie's Response: Your jealousy of his ex-' is considerably problematic, but understandable. If you were thinking about going out with him before you and him got together as a couple, then talking about his relationship with his ex-' probably was not the best idea. But then again, if you truly love him and consider him "the one" you believe you will be with till the very end, then you will have to just learn to accept the past as past. Think of it this way: him and his ex-' were only having sexual intercourse in that "non-emotional" way, and never had that "emotional high" during sex that you and him share so exclusively. Therefore what you and him have is truly something special; something that he never had with any of his past lovers, which basically separates his feelings/love for you from the rest. I understand it may hurt you for a while, but as long as you think about it in the way I just told you, you'll be fine. If you have no problem with you not being his 1st sexual experience, and vice-versa, then, he may be more compatible than you think. This is considering the fact that many don't even want to CONSIDER marriage with a mate if their mate has been sexually intimate with others before them (since their feelings on that issue is "what's the point of tying the knot with someone that is already "used goods?"). So, consider yourself lucky for not having a problem of not being able to be his 1st.

Dear Blondie:  Well my and this guy have been seeing each other for about 2 months now but we're not dating just yet the other day he came over and we did our thing and he asked me if I wanted to date him or not and I told him I didn't know and I feel stupid now do you think he will ask me again soon?
Blondie's Response: He obviously likes you so don't worry about it. I'm sure he will., but if he doesn't ask again start hinting to him that you would like to date. If that gets you nowhere then ask him out yourself. There's nothing to be afraid of.

 

Dear Blondie:  I gotta a problem on my hands, I have a friend Jennifer, She's going out with my other friend John. she really likes him an cares for him. But he treats her like dirt. He never calls, talks, or hangs out with her. He is a real bad boyfriend. I spend twice as much time with Jennifer that he does. They are always fighting, and its makes Jennifer cry. I really love Jennifer my self and John knows this so when ever I talk about John and get him in trouble with Ashlee he blames me because he knows I want to go out with her. She was gonna dump him several times but some how she just can't. She was gonna break up with him to go out with me because she knows I'd e so much better for her. So what should I do? What should she do? I really hate seeing her like this.
Blondie's Response: If she saw things the way you supposedly see them, perhaps she would have dumped him and gone with you. However, maybe your perception of the situation is not the same as hers.

 

Dear Blondie:  I dated this guy for 10 months and I thought we had the best relationship ever he's 17 and I thought I could trust him but I was in for a big surprise, close to the end of the 10 months he started changing, wouldn't call, when we did talk he was a real jerk and then came the hickies and that just broke my heart into cause I was the closest with him than any of my other bf's we did have sex a lot and that made my heartache worse, and I came to find out he's living with a married woman with kids and my heart will not heal, I still love and miss him and I don't know why! I can't get him outta my mind pleez help
Blondie's Response: Go date some new guys it will help get your mind off him :)

 

Dear Blondie:  I really need your help, me and my (ex) girlfriend was together for a year, but her mom made us break up, so she started going out with a other guy, but she told me she still loved me more than anything and we still did stuff together like making out and 4play and stuff like that, even thought she was with another guy, the last time I talked to her was last Friday, when we got off the phone, she told me she still loved me and she always will, and she started crying, I tried to call her the next day, and her sister answered the phone, when I asked if she was there, her sister said yes but she don't want to talk to you and she wants you to stop calling her, I don't understand why she would say that after all the stuff we was still doing, and then just all of a sudden, change her mind over night. what do you think she is trying to tell me, and what should I do about it without making things worse?.
Blondie's Response: Did you ever consider that the sister was lying?

 

Dear Blondie:  Blondie, my gf and I broken up, and it's been about 2 months. She went out w/ other guys. One guy she cheated on me with. She is contacting me and telling me she misses me. She mentions she realizes that hanging out with other guys, how real our relationship was. Before this, she tells me how she doesn't want to be together and how these others are better. Deep down I still care about her, but I'm confused. Can u give me advice?
Blondie's Response: Well think of it this way, in the worst case scenario she will cheat on you again or possibly see other guys while she sees you, if you can handle that then go ahead and go out with her, if you can't deal with that then cut her off.

 

Dear Blondie:  Here's my question! I've been seeing this guy for a few months now, at first everything was good, but as time passed he started getting too comfortable now all he talks about it SEX!! but I do not want to have sex with him because his dick is small and I am not sexually attracted to him. other than that I like him and he's coo to hang out with. but, there is times when he gets real mad and starts calling me a bitch and bad names. of course later he says sorry and that I just frustrate him because he likes me a lot and I he wants to have sex so we can "share" our feelings. anyways I do not even know if I should keep talking to him because I do not like the fact he calls me names and gets so mad that we do not have sex. I don't want to make him feel bad by telling him his dick is small. what should I do?
Blondie's Response: Get rid of him, why would you want an ugly guy who curses you out? That doesn't do you any good.

 

Dear Blondie:  Blondie, my girlfriend and me have broken up for almost 2 months now. We've dated for about 2 1/2 years. We had one major break up before. Thing is I can't stop thinking about her. I still have strong feelings for her. She had new a bf, but it didn't worked out. She was afraid to talk to me. She told me it was because she's afraid to fall for me again. We use to fight a lot. She ignored me for a while, but on my birthday, we talked. I can see it in her that she cares about us. What steps should I take?
Blondie's Response: Well if you still hang out, then continue to do so, if and when the situation is right maybe you can get back together.

 

Dear Blondie:  Blondie, my girlfriend and me have broken up for almost 2 months now. We've dated for about 2 1/2 years. We had one major break up before. Thing is I can't stop thinking about her. I still have strong feelings for her. She had new a bf, but it didn't worked out. She was afraid to talk to me. She told me it was because she's afraid to fall for me again. We use to fight a lot. She ignored me for a while, but on my birthday, we talked. I can see it in her that she cares about us. What steps should I take?
Blondie's Response: Well if you still hang out, then continue to do so, if and when the situation is right maybe you can get back together.

 

Dear Blondie:  Well my girl left me...she told me she felt that it wasn't working out right and I felt bad because she didn't give me an explanation for it so it still has me wondering what it is til this day would u have a clue about why she broke up wit me and the reason why?
Blondie's Response: So you think I know why she left you? How the hell do I know!?

 

Dear Blondie:  I had dated this girl for about 6mo befor i broke up w/ her.i thaought i did it for good reasons and realized about a mo later that i was sooooo wrong.. i said some dumb stuff, i told her to move on and see other people.. and she did. i feel so bad. i want her back. she said that she loves me and wants to be w/ me but she honestly has feelings for this other guy. he was there for her when i was being stupid.. the good thing is that she is honest w/ me. she told me that she has felings for him and she doesnt want to hurt him. they've only dated a week. i love her to death, i would do ANYTHING for. the hard part is that i am leaving for the navy in less than two weeks. i will do anything. i cant drop out of te navy, the benifits for us when i get out are too good. i truly love her. she said she doesnt love him but it still hurts me that se even has to think about it. i knwo things can work but she always brings up how i hurt her. i know i did and if i could take it back i would. but you cant change the past. she told me that she wants to be w/ me but she wants to think about it and make sure that its the right thing.. now i can respect that, but she said she wants to date him in the mean time.. blondie what do i do. i cant see myself w/o her and ill do anything. she is w/ him today and i am suppost to go over there to talk but she hasnt called and im worried. it almost 2:30, thats not a breakfast time. i just want to be w/ her and ill do anything... just please give me some real advice on what to do. every minute im not w/ her im hurting. i just want her back and to be happy w/ her... what do i do??? 
Blondie's Response: Well seems like you told her all of this right? therefore it's up to her to decide and you will just have to live with her decision.

 

Dear Blondie:  My girlfriend is 2 years younger then me. All she wants to do is kiss me, no touching no feeling. NOTHING! I'm living the monastery life with her. She thinks that me liking her a lot is gonna be able to survive. How can she expect me to make out w/ her heavily and then just end it. Blue Balls is a b**ch.
Blondie's Response: Tell her that and see what she says.  If her answer doesn't satisfy you, you may have to go find some new puntang.

 

Dear Blondie:  HeY blondie,,,,my gf told me she was a virgin and finaly she lost it to me in her car on her.bday when she turnd 19 she seem like she was realy a virign but i dont know if it was just an act
Blondie's Response: Considering you can't compose a sentence, I can't fathom you getting ass, from a virgin no less.

 

Dear Blondie:  This past summer i started to date guy and i dont give guys a chance usually but he cought my eye and i gave him the chance we went out and that good stuff ive heard that he had a wifey (real serious girlfriend) but everytime i asked him he would say no,and he would tell me he cares about me and everything so i believed him because he was at my house everyday and night and i wouldnt wonder how could he have time to do anything else and then one day ifound out her phone number that people was sayin he had a girl and i called her and it came out to be true so we broke up! but now in school he tells me he still wnats to be wiuth me and i still like him i think its more then just like i cant get him out my mind he tried to talk to this girl in schooland i let her know hes mine but he said to me "if your not gonna give me a chance then i dont wanna waste my time" should i take him back or do you think ones a player always a player?
Blondie's Response: I think you should pay attention in English class, have you ever heard of a period? spell check? anything?

 

Dear Blondie:  I just moved a few months ago and I have a girlfriend that I have been with for over a year. Lately I have found out that she has lied to me a few times since I have been gone and I have caught her every time. Recently I broke up with her but I called her and I told her she could have another chance but everyone I talk to back at home tells me she has changed a lot but she has also been around a lot of other guys. I'm a very caring guy and when I ask for something I don't expect to be lied to I was wondering if you could help me out rather I should try to be with her or move on
Blondie's Response: Well, you said your broke up with her and apparently she does not seem to care, so I would say move on!

 

Dear Blondie:  I like this guy and he likes me, but I don't know how to ask him out or talk to me. How could I start talking to him?
Blondie's Response: Wink, Walk, and Talk to him. Just go with the flow, don't be scared, and talk about anything.

 

Dear Blondie:  Well I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months that I was in love with but we fight too much and then I met this guy and he has a kid and he didn't live with the babies mom but now that she found out about me she says she got kicked out of her house so she can live with him but I really really like him a lot and he says nothings going on between them and she knows about me and everything but I still kinda have feelings for my ex and I have known him for like 6 years please help me. I want to know if I should go back with my ex or go with something new.
Blondie's Response: Looks like you think you are in love with everyone, so if you got a new boyfriend, you would probably say you are in love with him too.  I guess pick the guy you "love" more.

 

Dear Blondie:  I just broke up with my girlfriend so I can see what else is out there. We only dated for months and this is her first real relationship. she is about a year and a half younger than me. I have been this before but was on her side of the break up the last time. she keeps calling all the time, text messaging me, emailing me, and wont stop talking to me, I asked her to give me my space, and she did, for about a day and a half. since I told her this she keeps begging me back. Literally begging, over the past few weeks I have got to know a girl more than I did. I am really starting to like her and now don't know how to finish things off w/ my ex so I can move on. I really enjoy this new girls company and everything she has to offer. I don't know what else to say to my ex I am at a loss of words (which is rare for me)
Blondie's Response: Tell her what you told me in your first sentence.

 

Dear Blondie:  So I like this guy I work with, we flirt we talk on the phone online (we're both 17) and he says He's attracted to me and I really want him. I've never wanted a guy more. but the thing is he has a girl. I am afraid to be truthful with him and tell him I like him and get rid of his girl, I am afraid ill lose him completely what do I do?
Blondie's Response: Tell him how you feel and let him make the decision.

 

Dear Blondie:  Ok well me and my boyfriend Rudy just broke up and I really like him I wanted to know if you thought wed get back together?
Blondie's Response: I'm not a psychic to tell you what will happen, but I'm sure that if you both liked each other equally and have hope- anything is possible.

Dear Blondie:  ok me and my boyfriend have been going out and I really liked him but its so weird because when were in person he's the sweetest guy ever he's always hugging me and kissing me and telling me I'm gorgeous but then when were talking on the phone or whatever he acts completely different like he doesn't want to be with me or like he doesn't like me and I asked him why does he change so much and does he really like me and he said yes but then he got all mad at me cause he says I ask him to much and I should take his word for it and then we just broke up should I just let him go or can you tell me how to get him back because I like him soooo much .
Blondie's Response: Guys sometimes need their space, if you're constantly nagging and doubting their word they'll get fed up and leave. They don't like to be stressed out alot over stupid things. Girls tend to overanalyze things and it's too complex for a guy to understand. So, if he was good to you when you were together and feel that you did smother him too much then give it another shot. But, if you feel that he was wrong and bi-polar then move on.

Dear Blondie:  hey Blondie! well where do I begin I been with my boyfriend a year and like 8 months now. And the longer we are together the unhappier he gets. like he barely wants to talk to me or see me..and I don't do anything wrong you know and I have this big trust issue because he has this thing where he feels like he has to flirt with females and get there number.. I know I'm in love with him... I know he loves me but I don't think its the same anymore...I'm starting to feel like I wasted alot of time and I feel like I'm putting in all the effort in the relationship and he's not putting in anything.. he's just not happy anymore and that's making me unhappy..he does alot of things that gets me upset but I don't have the heart to leave him, we try to work everything out but this is just not working no matter how many times I try because it seems like he don't want it to work out!! please Blondie what should I do?? Stay and work things out or leave? Helpp!!
Blondie's Response: It's the beginning of the end, and you must leave him before you fall deeper in love and it gets harder to break away. It seems as if he regrets being in a steady relationship even though it was good. He's confused because he wants to be free but at the same time he cares for you. I've seen these actions happen before and they've always ended in heartbreak. So, I'm telling you to be strong and walk away because It's the smartest thing to do. Only God knows what will happen in the future--he might come to his senses or you'll find someone who appreciates you unlike he is right now.  

Dear Blondie:  ok Blondie here's my question I started talking to this guy online we was talking for like maybe 4 weeks or more then we finally meet he told me that he was into me that I was pretty so from then we started going out on a few dates then one night we was into to the mood feeling on each other kissing etc then he told me to give him oral sex so I did but I didn't go all the way with him cause I didn't want to that date maybe a few more dates I would have so the next day I talked to him on the phone and online and he was like that he likes me a lot and that we should go on more dates but then after that he was like call me to set up the date but he never says I call you call me so I don't cause I believe a man should the girl if he likes her but he hasn't and now when were online I always instant message him he says hi then a few words then he gets off like 10 or 20 minutes later where like strangers I'm so confused Blondie what should I do I feel used what should I do ??????
Blondie's Response: Tell him that if he wants to see you he should call you, since you're the one always calling. It doesn't sound that he's too interested in you but guys will be guys at times. What you should really do is meet with him and have a little conversation/confrontation on his expectations of you two(meaning:Does he want you as a fuck buddy or more?). You should both talk it out and come to an agreement. If you're not happy with what he has to say, then find someone else. There are soooo many guys out there, and he doesn't sound like such a great catch, so there's nothing to lose.

 

Dear Blondie:  I hope you can help me out, I have been with by girlfriend for almost 9 months, and I really love her, but some times she confuses me, sometimes she will act like she loves my and sometimes she wont, and she tells me she loves me all the time, sometimes when we go places she will act like she is board and unhappy, but when somebody like one for my friends that are better looking then me, she will get real cheery, but not all the time, sometimes she will be happy around me and sometimes she wont, and I sometimes wonder if I make her happy, and if she really means it when she tells me that she loves me, is there some way I could like test her or something like that to see if she really loves me and if I make her happy, please help me Blondie, I want to make her happy!!!
Blondie's Response:   She's probably too young to be in a relationship. It seems as if she does care for you and wants you as a boyfriend, but then sometimes regrets being in a relationship because she has no freedom. The best thing to do is keep her excited and on her toes. Make the relationship interesting by trying different things, going to different places, etc. Show her that you love her instead of just saying it and she will appreciate it and act differently. If she still stays the same way, then find someone who will care for you the same way in return.

 

Dear Blondie: I appreciate the fact that you have to answer a huge number of similar questions, so I'll make this short and sweet, but I didn't find too many other people asking about it on your site, or I wouldn't have asked, so please tell me something about your experience, I have heard all the generic stuff :-\ Can reasonably long distance relationships not only work out, but work out so well that it's worth trying when you're only 16?
Blondie's Response:   Honestly, anything is possible but I don't think it's practical especially at sixteen. You have your whole life ahead of you including high school, college, etc. These are the best years of your life that you want to spend either free or with someone close by. It'll be hard for you to maintain this relationship considering that you live far apart and probably don't make enough money at this time to travel frequently. But, that's just my opinion. Do what you feel in your heart and mind because you never know--it might work out.

 

Dear Blondie: Wow, you get a lot of questions, and that makes my question feel small, but I need to ask someone, and at the risk of sounding dramatic, I don't feel like I have anyone else to ask. quick primer, I liked H. L liked E. E liked H and H liked E. So L and I are out of the loop. I think by the end of that year, L and I were in our own loop, but I don't know, and I never found out. I left, traveling during summer, I needed to get away, and she kept in touch. She was depressed, and I felt like she was holding me down to something I couldn't stand to be a part of anymore. Like a jerk, I ditched her, and it ruined our relationship for a time. Summer isn't forever, I came back, and we resumed our now distant friendship. That feels like a long time ago now. It's been almost a year since then, but somewhere in between, we had our own loop again. We dated for just a few weeks, I was happy and I thought she was too, but I guess her feelings weren't as strong as I thought they were, so she broke it off early with a fear of losing our friendship (I assume). I told her she wouldn't lose me as a friend, but it feels like her fear came true. We've drifted incredibly apart, and I miss her as my friend. Her birthday came round, and I sent her some meager jewelry, just something to let her know I cared, and she will inevitably ask me about it if I see her anytime before the end of this month. I want to tell her that if our friendship is down the tubes, it's not because of me, but I'm afraid she will think I want her back, and that I will look desperate or pathetic (something I'm sure I've been before). What's the best possible way I can tell her I want her to be in my life again without telling her that she is my life?
Blondie's Response:   Exactly how you just told me! Say it like it is and don't hold back. Let her fully understand, in your own words, how you feel.
 

Dear Blondie: I have a question. I am a very picky female, all my life I have only had guy friends, maybe one or 2 female friends, I just get a long with guys so much better. And although they are good friends to be they are horrible boyfriends to there girlfriends which makes me have a trust issue with guys. I was seeing a guy about a year ago for a while and things just died out, now we talk again and he tells me that he doesn't feel I am a very open person and it makes him upset and I don't put enough effort into things. I want to, I just don't know how, it is very hard for me to open up, sometimes I wanna say things to him but I cant bring myself to do it, something as simple as holding his hand before he holds mine becomes a project for me. I protect myself from being hurt too much. I had one 4 year relationship my whole life and the rest was just dating. He is a really nice guy but I am done with the club scene and he is younger and still into those things and I feel like I will get attached and he will want to party, what do I do?
Blondie's Response:   Trusting and being open with a new guy is hard when your heart has been broken. But, those are the two most important things in having a relationship. I know it's hard to do, but you must fight the battle within yourself and open up or you'll never find a steady guy. Don't be scared, just go for it. You must give to receive, meaning, give your all and you will get it back. If not, oh well, you've grown from this experience. It was just another step in life. By doing this, you learn from your experiences and are sure that you know what to watch out for the next time around. But, don't push him away cause he might be the right guy for you.

 

Dear Blondie: Alright, I'm really nervous about meeting this guy because I am not that good looking
Blondie's Response:   Don't be so hard on yourself, I'm sure you're fine. Just be yourself, act confident, and try to make him laugh. It's not all about looks, it's what's inside that counts.